In divorce and child custody proceedings, the focus is (of course) on the best interests of the child. Ensuring children have everything they need to be financially, physically, emotionally, psychologically and educationally stable and prosperous is not easy.
Unfortunately, things can get heated very quickly in these situations between parents and the courts. These three parties (two parents and the judge) all have different ideas of what the best interests of the children are, and they may not always get the whole picture. A father might be certain the school near his house will offer his child the best education, while the mother is sure she lives in the safest neighborhood.
In any case, child custody and visitation arrangements must be arranged, and in most cases, each parent deserves a say. Even the most amicable parents may find this difficult. There is no wrong way to do it, either. Parents can discuss and make the arrangements themselves, with the help of a mediator or in court.
Having an attorney on your side during these proceedings is probably in your best interests - and the best interests of your children. They can help you understand your options, advocate for you in an out of the court room and answer all of your questions.
If you feel you are at a disadvantage or have less of a chance of gaining child custody or visitation rights, do not despair. Wanting to be a part of your child's life is the first step, and it is the most important. A competent attorney will recognize that, and they may be the key to helping you get the outcome you desire.